Is it Still Possible to Meet Your Soulmate IRL Without Dating Apps?
I say absolutely YES!! It happened for me and I've seen it happen for others too. I'm not totally against dating apps and some people will prefer them as a method for finding love. BUT if you want to try another way read on!!
Being Open to Finding Love, Whilst Getting on With Life!
Have you heard people say: "I found my partner when I wasn't really looking."? Often the most meaningful connections happen when you least expect them. The universe has a mysterious way of bringing two souls together, and sometimes, it's not about actively searching but just getting out there and living your best life and trusting that love will find you when you're enjoying what you're doing!
This is sometimes easier said than done and so I wanted to write this blog to instil optimism and confidence in you, if you're fed up of looking and waiting for your mate to come along. Or you're totally sick of dating apps and want to give real life opportunities to meet someone a chance.
In this blog, I want to talk about examples of places where you might meet your partner IRL and also discuss the mindset of not actively looking, because, as the saying goes, love has a way of finding you when you're busy living your life.
I will also tell you my story of how I met my partner IRL (and after years of internet dating, some successful but not lasting and some dismal experiences too.) I'll save these stories for another time!
Here Are Some Ideas Of Where & How You Might Meet Your Future Partner!
✅ Embrace Hobbies and Passions: One of the best ways to meet like-minded people is by engaging in activities you genuinely enjoy. Whether it's joining a pickle ball club, a new gym or drama club, attending a painting, writing or photography class or participating in a local hiking group, you increase your chances of meeting someone who shares your interests. By focusing on your passions, you naturally attract people who appreciate the same things and also meet people you probably wouldn't have come across in your every day life.
✅ Expand Your Social Circle: Attend social events, gatherings, networking events, meet-ups and parties even if they aren't directly related to finding a partner. Often, when you're surrounded by friends and acquaintances, you become more open to new connections. Your friends might introduce you to someone interesting, or you might strike up a conversation with a stranger who ends up becoming a significant part of your life. Remember that the events that you really don't feel like attending are often the ones that you're really glad you made the effort to go to!
✅ Volunteer and Give Back: Volunteering not only allows you to contribute to a cause you believe in, but it also puts you in contact with people who share your values and commitment to making a difference. The shared experience of giving back can create a strong bond, and you might find that special someone while working towards a common goal.
✅ Travel and Explore: Traveling opens up a world of possibilities, not just in terms of discovering new places but also meeting new people. Whether you're exploring a foreign city or hiking through the mountains, the unexpected connections you make during your travels can turn into lifelong relationships. You could go on your own or with a friend. If there's no one free to go with you and you don't want to go on your own, there are some great companies who take group tours. I did several amazing trips with Intrepid Travel when I was single, visiting India, South America and Vietnam. Don't let being single stop you from seeing the world, if you're passionate about travel, like I am!
✅ Focus on Personal Growth: Instead of actively searching for a partner, invest time in personal growth. Pursue your career goals, learn new skills, and become the best version of yourself. When you're focused on your own development, you radiate confidence and positivity, making you more attractive to potential partners who are drawn to your ambition and self-assuredness. You are also engaged in your own self-growth journey. And if you're a bit of a junkie in the self-development world (like me:)) you will be in a great energy to meet someone, because you'll be loving what you're doing and learning.
✅ Be Open to New Experiences: The key to meeting your soulmate unexpectedly is being open to new experiences. Attend events you wouldn't normally consider, say "yes" to invitations, and step outside your comfort zone. Love often finds us when we're least expecting it, in the most unlikely places.
✅ Try Speed Dating Or Other Single's Events: Speed dating and other singles events are fun if you approach them with a view to meeting and chatting to new people that you wouldn't normally meet, having a laugh and increasing your chances of meeting someone you would like to get to now better. And the best thing is that all of the attendees are single and looking for the same thing that you are. If a speed dating event is well-attended many of the companies state that you'll get to meet and chat (albeit for 4-5 minutes) to 15-20 single people in that one evening. Where else are you able to meet so many people that could potentially be your future partner?
If you try this, don't just go to one event and give up if it's not successful. There are many events and each one will be different.
How I Met My Soulmate IRL
After years of dating and searching for the ‘one’, I met my partner at a seminar about writing and publishing a book (which was something that we were both wanting to do). I wasn’t expecting to meet anyone in the romantic sense at this event and I definitely wasn’t looking at that time!
We stayed in touch as friends and a couple of months later went on our first date. Fast forward nine years and we're still together and very happy. I don't think I would've met him if I hadn't attended the seminar. For me there wasn't an initial 'physical spark', I treated him as a friend and the attraction grew as we got to know each other more. It can happen for you too! By trying some of the ideas above; embracing your passions, expanding your social circle, volunteering, traveling, focusing on personal growth, and being open to new experiences, you will be creating the perfect conditions for you to meet more people (whilst not even touching a dating app) and for serendipity to work its magic!
Remember, love has a way of finding you when you're busy living a life filled with purpose and spending time doing the things you love to do. So, let go of the search, enjoy the journey, and trust that your soulmate will come into your life when the time is right.
P.S. If you are single and would like to meet someone, you may really like my NEW program: 💕Solo to Soulmate: Finding Love Offline: A fun & empowering path to organically attract your partner without dating apps.💕
❤️ 🦋 In this course you’ll go from feeling discouraged, stuck and like love is passing you by to feeling empowered, inspired and confident that you can enjoy the freedom of an organic path to meet your soulmate, without the time-consuming frustration of dating apps.
We’re starting soon and places are limited. The first 10 people to enrol will get a special rate in return for their feedback as founding members! If you want to join us on this life-changing 4 week course please get in touch by writing "First 10" in the message box here!
The Solo to Soulmate Program will also be included in my upcoming Healthy Relationship Formula 8 week program beginning on the 16th of April!! Go here to read more about this and to apply!
Toxic Relationships Can Be Hard To Spot Until It Feels Too Late!
We've all heard the phrase, "love is blind," and unfortunately, it often holds true in the context of toxic relationships. Our emotions and our need for love can make it difficult to recognize red flags and warning signs, leading us to stay in unhealthy situations far longer than we should.
In this blog, we'll explore why we might find have found ourselves staying too long in toxic relationships, offer insights into breaking free and share some strategies for building healthier connections in the future.
Understanding The Stay: Reasons Why We May Stay Too Long!
➡️ Fear of Loneliness:
It's common to fear being alone, and this fear can be a powerful motivator to stay in a toxic relationship. The comfort of having someone, even if they are detrimental to your well-being, can outweigh the uncertainty of being on your own.
➡️ Low Self-Esteem:
Many people suffer with low self-esteem and may believe that they don't deserve better or that finding a healthier relationship is an impossible task. This belief system can trap them in toxic dynamics.
➡️ Sunk Cost Fallacy:
The more time and effort invested in a relationship, the harder it becomes to walk away. The "sunk cost fallacy" makes it challenging to accept that the time spent in a toxic relationship won't magically improve the situation. It’s hard to give up on something that we’ve put so much energy into!
➡️ Manipulation and Gaslighting:
Toxic partners often employ manipulation and gaslighting techniques to make their victims doubt themselves and question their own needs and emotions. This psychological warfare can make it challenging to see the relationship for what it truly is.
How to Break Free:
✅ Self-Reflection:
The first step towards breaking free is self-reflection. Understand your own needs, values, and boundaries. This self-awareness lays the foundation for recognizing when a relationship becomes toxic.
✅ Seek Support:
Don’t isolate yourself and shut people out of your life and keep what’s going on in your relationship a secret. Share your experiences with friends, family, or a therapist. Having an external perspective can provide clarity and validate your feelings, helping you understand that you deserve better.
✅ Establish Boundaries:
Clearly define your boundaries and communicate them to your partner. You have to speak up for what you need and what is healthy for you. This can be challenging especially if your partner is making you doubt yourself. But if you set boundaries and they are consistently violated, it's probably time to move on.
✅ Prioritize Self-Care:
Focus on self-care to rebuild your self-esteem. Do the things that make you feel good. Engage in activities that bring you joy, surround yourself with positive and supportive people and prioritize your mental and emotional well-being.
How To Build A Healthier Future:
🦋 Learn from the Past:
Reflect on the lessons learned from the toxic relationship. Identify red flags and trust your instincts on what feels right and wrong when entering new relationships.
🦋 Set Healthy Standards:
Establish clear standards for your future relationships. Recognize and address any signs of toxicity early on, and be willing to walk away if those standards are not met. Take your time getting to know someone new, this will ensure that you notice when something may not be right and you can tackle it early on.
🦋 Continuous Self-Growth:
Embrace personal growth as an ongoing process. Cultivate a mindset that values self-improvement, ensuring that you are continually evolving and becoming the best version of yourself. Learn by any mistakes and forgive yourself for making them.
🦋 Choose Wisely:
Be selective in choosing your partners. Prioritize compatibility, mutual respect, and open communication. A healthy relationship is built on a foundation of trust, understanding, and support.
You Can Break Free
Breaking free from toxic relationships and past negative patterns is a challenging but necessary step toward reclaiming your happiness and well-being. By understanding the reasons behind staying in such relationships, learning from the past, recognizing what you do and DON’T want and focussing on building healthier connections with people in future relationships, you can create much more positive, fulfilling relationships. The journey will also contribute to your overall growth and happiness in the long-run too.
P.S. If you are single and want a healthy relationship, you may really like my NEW program: 💕Solo to Soulmate: Finding Love Offline: A fun & empowering path to organically attract your partner without dating apps.💕
❤️ 🦋 In this course you’ll go from feeling discouraged, stuck and like love is passing you by to feeling empowered, inspired and confident that you can enjoy the freedom of an organic path to meet your soulmate, without the time-consuming frustration of dating apps. You can also choose to include a one to one Rapid Transformational Therapy session with me as part of the program, which will help you to address and heal the root cause of problems and past negative patterns you may have experienced in your love-life.
We’re starting soon and places are limited. The first 10 people to enrol will get a special rate in return for their feedback as founding members! If you want to join us on this life-changing 4 week course please get in touch by writing "First 10" in the message box here!
The Solo to Soulmate Program will also be included in my upcoming Healthy Relationship Formula 8 week program beginning on the 16th of April!! Go here to read more about this and to apply!
When Dating Some Rejection Is Inevitable
Embarking on the journey of dating can be both exciting and challenging. It's a time of self-discovery, new connections, and perhaps even finding a lifelong partner. However, along the way, you may experience some rejection. While rejection is never easy, it's an inevitable part of the dating process.
In this blog, I want to give some strategies for dealing with rejection in the world of dating. If you have tools and the mindset to take any rejection in your stride it will make dating more sustainable, which ultimately will mean you will meet someone to share your life with.
7 Ways to Deal with Rejection
1. Try to Think Positively:
Maintaining a positive mindset is crucial when facing rejection. Remember that rejection doesn't define your worth or value. It means nothing bad about you! Approach dating with an open heart and an optimistic outlook, but view rejection as a redirection, guiding you toward someone more compatible with your goals and values.
2. Reflect and Learn:
After experiencing rejection, take some time for self-reflection. Analyze the situation and consider whether there are aspects of yourself or your approach that you could change or do differently. Is there any learning from what has happened? It's not about changing who you are but evolving and growing from your experience.
3. Don't Take it Personally:
Rejection often has more to do with the other person than any shortcomings on your part. Understand that everyone has their own preferences and reasons for making romantic choices. If someone doesn’t choose you, it means nothing bad about you, it’s just part of the process. You don’t feel really drawn to everyone do you? We can’t expect everyone we are interested in to always feel the same way about us. So don't internalize any rejection; instead, recognize that compatibility is a two-way street.
4. Build a Strong Support System:
Having a supportive network of friends and family can be invaluable during challenging times. Share your experiences with people you trust, and allow them to provide encouragement and perspective. Sometimes, an outside viewpoint can help you see the bigger picture. Lean on the people that are there for you, just as you would do for them if they were struggling with something.
5. Focus on Self-Care:
Dating can be fun but it can also be emotionally taxing, so prioritize self-care. Make sure you include in your day or week activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Whether it's reading a good book, practicing meditation, or enjoying a hobby, taking care of yourself will contribute to a positive mindset and resilience if you do have to face rejection at times.
6. Keep the Faith:
Maintain faith in the process of finding love. Understand that rejection is a natural part of the dating journey and that the right person may not have crossed your path yet. Keep an open heart and believe that every rejection is a step closer to meeting someone truly compatible.
7. Adjust Your Expectations:
Expect it to take time for you to meet someone special and don’t expect to meet someone quickly. If you catch yourself feeling impatient, try to be flexible and change your expectations a bit. It can make dealing with the good and bad parts of dating a bit easier. Just remember, being open to adjusting what you expect might bring you closer to finding the right person for you.
I hope these strategies and mindset shifts will help you feel less alone and that whilst rejection doesn't always feel good it is normal! Don't let it stop you from believing that you will meet your person! I believe every rejection you experience gets you closer to what you want!
P.S. If you are single and are wanting a relationship, you may really like my NEW program: Solo to Soulmate: Finding Love Offline: A fun & empowering path to organically attract your partner without dating apps.
In this course you’ll go from feeling discouraged, stuck and like love is passing you by to feeling empowered, inspired and confident that you can enjoy the freedom of an organic path to meet your soulmate, without the time-consuming frustration of dating apps.
We’re starting soon and places are limited. The first 10 people to enrol will get a special rate in return for their feedback as founding members! If you want to join us on this life-changing 4 week course please get in touch by writing "First 10" in the message box here!
The Solo to Soulmate Program will also be included in my upcoming Healthy Relationship Formula 8 week program beginning on the 16th of April!! Go here to read more about this and to apply!
